How to Be HUMBLE
How to Be SEXY
BLOG-BOOK
With Prophet 2PAC… Deacon DMX & Pastor K-ICE!
It's been more than 20 years since the passing of Prophet 2Pac, and yet no rapper has truly picked up the torch for his "Humble Is Sexy" Movement…
That's because this movement was always meant to be started by Prophet 2Pac—and completed by Pastor K-ICE!
(Tupac Shakur — 'I'm not saying I'm gonna change the world, but I guarantee that I will spark the brain that will change the world.)
I think being humble is SEXY…
2pac said in a QUOTE…
I agree with PAC…
So he got my VOTE…
I think positive ENERGY…
Should be worn like a COAT…
Im’a follow PAC…
Speaking peace & love out my THROAT…
Is there a heaven for a G?
Tupac asked in a SONG…
Listen deeply to PAC…
He taught about God’s THRONE…
Ghetto Gospel, Thugz MANSION…
Was coded for the STREETZ…
Undercover Angel PAC…
Brought the gospel to the STREETZ…
Tupac repped black JESUS…
Like a modern day PETER …
That’s why I rock with PAC…
He’s a spiritual street LEADER…
Tupac made us think about HEAVEN…
See that was his MISSION…
Rest in paradise PAC…
You are a Hip Hop LEGEND!
– Kenley La France aka Pastor K-ICE
Eliminate Jealousy, Negative Thinking, and Anxiety with this Character Development Guide!
Become Your Best Self and Balance Your Energy Through the Guidance of History’s Greatest Rappers: Prophet 2Pac, Deacon DMX & Pastor K-ICE!
Book Overview:
Transform Your Mindset, Elevate Your Confidence, and Master the Art of Being Humble and Sexy!
Do you ever feel pressured to be someone you're not in order to succeed or feel attractive? We all strive to be confident and sexy, but knowing how to achieve that balance can be tricky.
How to Be Humble, How to Be Sexy is your ultimate guide to developing the best version of yourself!
Through a powerful blend of character-building tips and exercises, this book will help you embrace humility while unleashing your inner confidence and charisma.
Inside, you’ll discover:
- How to Radiate Good Vibes: True sexiness starts within. Learn how practicing humility can make you more magnetic.
- Unlock Your Sexy Energy: Boost your confidence, stand out with your unique swagg, and become your own biggest fan!
- Supercharge Your Self-Love: Quiet the inner critic and free yourself from self-doubt, unlocking true happiness and self-assurance.
- Wisdom from the “3 LIGHT WARRIORS” in Hip-Hop: Be inspired by the legendary teachings of Prophet 2PAC, Deacon DMX and Pastor K-ICE to guide your journey.
- And Much More!
With this book, you’ll gain the tools to cultivate INNER PEACE, CONFIDENCE, and a HUMBLE ATTITUDE, allowing you to shine from the inside out. It’s time to step into your POWER and attract POSITIVITY in all aspects of life.
So read, "How to be HUMBLE How to be SEXY" and start your transformation today!
Introduction:
The Path to Humility and True Confidence
In today’s world, we often feel pressure to act a certain way or pretend to be someone we’re not. This constant comparison to others can breed jealousy, negative thinking, and anxiety.
But what if we could rise above all of that? What if we could find a way to stay humble while still exuding the confidence and inner peace that makes us feel truly sexy and alive?
Through the wisdom of three of the most influential voices in hip-hop history—Prophet 2Pac, Deacon DMX, and Pastor K-ICE—this book offers a roadmap to transforming your mindset, eliminating negativity, and becoming the best version of yourself.
The path to humility doesn’t mean shrinking; it means standing tall with grace and being truly sexy in your authenticity.
Let’s begin this journey toward balance, confidence, and peace.
How to Be HUMBLE
How to Be SEXY
BLOG-BOOK!
SECTION 1
Chapter 1: Embracing Humility Without Losing Your Confidence
Pain Point: Many people feel anger and frustration because they believe being humble means letting others walk over them. They feel torn between maintaining their humility and wanting to protect themselves from being taken advantage of.
Solution: True humility doesn’t mean being weak; it’s about being strong in knowing who you are in Christ. The most confident people know their worth and don’t need to boast. In the words of Prophet 2Pac, “Only God can judge me.” When you understand this, you stop looking to others for validation. You embrace humility, knowing it makes you stronger and more grounded.
Key Takeaway: When you are humble, you don’t have to shout your value. It’s already known. Walk with quiet confidence, and the world will take notice.
- Scripture: James 4:10 — "Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up."
- Explanation: Humility brings true confidence because it's rooted in trusting God's plan for your life, not relying solely on your own strength.
Redefining SEXY and HUMBLE
What Does It Mean to Be Sexy?
Being SEXY is about more than physical appearance. It’s the energy you give off—CONFIDENCE, CHARISMA, and POSITIVITY.
SEXY people exude inner strength and self-awareness, which naturally attracts others. True sexiness is about owning who you are without needing to boast.
The Power of Humility
Humility isn’t about minimizing your worth, but recognizing the value in others and staying grounded in God, because He is the One that gives us the power to do the things that we do.
It’s about knowing your strengths without the need to broadcast them. Humble people are approachable, genuine, and often more attractive, because they don’t seek validation.
Chapter 2: Authenticity is Sexy – Becoming Your True Self
Pain Point: People often feel anger and jealousy when comparing themselves to others, believing they need to be someone else to be appreciated or loved.
Solution: The key to true confidence is being your authentic self. As Prophet 2Pac said, “You gotta be able to smile through all this bullshit.” It’s not about pretending to be someone else to fit in; it’s about embracing who you are, flaws and all.
Key Takeaway: Sexy isn’t about appearance—it’s about self-acceptance. The more authentic you are, the more attractive and magnetic you become.
- Scripture: Psalm 139:14 — "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."
- Explanation: Embracing your God-given identity is true confidence. You don't need to wear a mask to be valued; you are wonderfully made just as you are.
SEXY ENERGY – Unlocking Your Inner Cool
Dress for Yourself, Not for Validation
True sexiness is about feeling good in your own skin. Dress in a way that makes you feel CONFIDENT and COMFORTABLE, rather than trying to impress others. When you’re comfortable, your inner glow naturally comes through.
The Art of Body Language:
- Stand Tall: Good posture instantly boosts your confidence. When you walk into a room, stand tall with your shoulders back and head high.
- Make Eye Contact: Confident people make eye contact. It shows you’re present and engaged, which makes you more attractive.
Mindfulness for Coolness:
- When you’re mindful of your thoughts and actions, you’ll naturally project CALMNESS and COMPOSURE. Think about LOVE in every moment—this is the key to unlocking your inner cool.
Chapter 3: Humility as the Key to Inner Peace and Confidence
Pain Point: Many people experience anxiety because they feel the need to prove themselves constantly. This can cause frustration and a lack of peace.
Solution: Deacon DMX said, “The truth doesn’t change—it was what it was before you got here, and it’ll be what it is when you’re gone.” When you realize that your worth isn’t tied to external validation, you can let go of anxiety and rest in inner peace. Humility allows you to stop the cycle of overthinking and just be.
Key Takeaway: Humility brings inner peace because it frees you from the need for approval. Focus on being true to yourself rather than seeking constant validation.
- Scripture: Philippians 2:3 — "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves."
- Explanation: True peace and confidence come when we stop seeking external validation and instead, live humbly, valuing others while being secure in who we are.
The Inner Work – Cultivating HUMILITY
Recognizing Your Value Without Flaunting It
Acknowledging your value doesn’t mean you need to flaunt it. You can be proud of your achievements while remaining open to learning and growth. It’s about being quietly confident, knowing that your worth doesn’t need constant validation from others.
Exercises for Humility:
- Gratitude Journaling: Write down three things you’re thankful for each day. Reflect on how your success has been influenced by the people and circumstances around you.
- Daily Acts of Kindness: Do one kind act daily without expecting anything in return. These small gestures remind you to stay grounded and connected with others.
Chapter 4: Building Self-Worth Through Service
Pain Point: Anger and frustration often come from feeling insignificant or overlooked. When we don’t feel valued, jealousy and resentment can arise.
Solution: Service to others can build self-worth. As Pastor K-ICE teaches, “You find yourself by serving others.” When you help others, your own value becomes clear. Humility isn’t about shrinking; it’s about using your gifts to uplift others, which in turn uplifts you.
Key Takeaway: Your self-worth isn’t determined by what you get but by what you give. Serving others builds inner confidence and humility.
- Scripture: Mark 10:45 — "For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many."
- Explanation: Service to others builds real self-worth. When we follow Jesus' example of service, we reflect humility and strength.
Chapter 5: Letting Go of Pride and Ego
Pain Point: Holding onto pride can lead to frustration and broken relationships. Anger builds up when we let our egos get in the way of resolving conflicts or admitting when we’re wrong.
Solution: Prophet 2Pac reminded us, “I’m not saying I’m gonna change the world, but I guarantee that I will spark the brain that will change the world.” Humility means recognizing that we are all part of something bigger and that our ego can be a barrier to growth.
Key Takeaway: Letting go of pride frees you to grow and become a better version of yourself. Humility opens the door to peace and resolution.
- Scripture: Proverbs 16:18 — "Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall."
- Explanation: Letting go of pride allows us to grow into our full potential. Humility frees us from ego, giving us the space to receive God’s blessings.
Letting Go of SELF-DOUBT
The Negative Voice in Your Head
We all have moments of SELF-DOUBT but learning to quiet that negative voice is key to building confidence. Acknowledge your FEARS, but don’t let them control your actions. Instead, focus on your strengths, your past achievements and focus on the God you serve; to remind yourself of your capability.
Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
Imposter syndrome makes you feel like you don’t deserve your success, but it’s important to remember that your journey is unique. Embrace your growth and understand that learning and evolving are part of success. HUMILITY helps you stay open to continuous improvement, while confidence/GODfidence allows you to own your accomplishments.
Chapter 6: The Power of Quiet Confidence
Pain Point: Many people believe that confidence must be loud and showy, leading to feelings of frustration when they don’t receive the attention or approval they crave.
Solution: True confidence is quiet. Deacon DMX said, “To live is to suffer, but to survive, well, that’s to find meaning in the suffering.” Quiet confidence comes from knowing you can survive anything. You don’t need to prove your worth to anyone—God already knows your value.
Key Takeaway: Quiet confidence comes from within. When you trust in God’s plan, you don’t need to seek validation from others.
- Scripture: Proverbs 3:26 — "For the Lord will be your confidence and will keep your foot from being caught."
- Explanation: Quiet confidence is rooted in God. You don't need to boast or be loud to prove your worth; trusting God brings true strength and security.
Chapter 7: Using Your Gifts Without Seeking Approval
Pain Point: Constantly seeking approval can lead to anger and dissatisfaction, especially when it feels like no one appreciates your talents or efforts.
Solution: Pastor K-ICE reminds us, “You were given your gifts to bless the world, not to receive praise.” When you use your gifts in service to others, you’ll find that the need for approval fades away, replaced by a sense of purpose.
Key Takeaway: Focus on using your gifts to serve others, and the approval will come naturally. You don’t need to seek it.
- Scripture: 1 Peter 4:10 — "Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God's grace in its various forms."
- Explanation: Your gifts are meant to serve, not to seek approval from others. When you use your talents humbly, you honor God and bless others.
Chapter 8: Building Healthy Relationships Through Humility
Pain Point: Jealousy and anger often arise in relationships when there is competition or comparison. Pride can create barriers to intimacy.
Solution: Humility fosters healthier relationships. As Deacon DMX said, “We all have fallen short of the glory.” Recognizing our imperfections allows us to be more compassionate toward others. When we are humble, we can build deeper connections based on trust and understanding.
Key Takeaway: Humility creates space for love and trust to grow. In humility, we stop competing with others and start building relationships based on mutual respect.
- Scripture: Ephesians 4:2-3 — "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace."
- Explanation: Humility and gentleness are essential for building strong, healthy relationships. These traits foster peace and unity in all interactions.
HUMILITY in Relationships – The Key to Sexy Connections
The Sexy Power of Listening
One of the most attractive traits in a person is their ability to listen. In relationships, listening makes your partner feel valued, which deepens the connection. Active listening shows humility, because it means you’re willing to learn from others.
How Humility Improves Relationships
When you approach relationships with humility, you’re more open to GROWTH and COMPROMISE. Humility allows you to acknowledge your partner’s needs and respect their feelings, creating a bond based on mutual respect.
Attracting Positivity:
Most women are attracted to
SEXY GANGTA'S
not KILLER GANGSTERS
By staying HUMBLE and POSITIVE, you naturally attract people who are supportive and share your values. These positive connections enhance your relationships, making them more fulfilling and long-lasting.
Chapter 9: How to Be Magnetic Without Being Arrogant
Pain Point: People often confuse arrogance with confidence, leading to resentment or feelings of inadequacy when they don’t receive the attention they desire.
Solution: Being magnetic doesn’t mean being arrogant. Prophet 2Pac taught us to “Keep ya head up” without stepping on others. True magnetism comes from being comfortable in your skin, without needing to put others down to lift yourself up.
Key Takeaway: You can be magnetic by being genuine, kind, and confident. Arrogance repels, but humility and authenticity attract.
- Scripture: Matthew 5:16 — "Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven."
- Explanation: You can shine without arrogance when your actions are for God's glory, not for personal praise. Confidence rooted in God is magnetic and humble.
Becoming a Magnet for Positivity
Attracting Positive People and Energy
When you radiate HUMILITY and CONFIDENCE, you naturally become a magnet for positivity. People are drawn to those who uplift them and exude GOOD ENERGY. By staying true to your values and maintaining a positive outlook, you’ll attract the right people into your life.
Surrounding Yourself with the Right Vibes
Choose to be around people and environments that align with your goals. POSITIVITY is contagious, and the more you surround yourself with it, the more you’ll amplify your own positive energy.
Staying Humble in Success
Success should never change your core values. As you achieve more, stay grounded in HUMILITY and remember the journey that got you there. A HUMBLE ATTITUDE will make your success even more attractive to others.
SEXY SWAGGER – How to Own Any Room
The Science of Charisma
CHARISMA is about making others feel important. When you walk into a room, do so with presence—smile, make eye contact, and be genuinely interested in others. Charismatic people are magnetic, because they make everyone feel valued and loved.
Public Speaking and Presence
To own any room, practice your public speaking skills. When you speak, project your voice, make eye contact, and stand with confidence. Your ENERGY will captivate the room if you believe in yourself.
The Art of Subtle Confidence
True confidence doesn’t need to shout. Subtle confidence means carrying yourself with quiet assurance—people will be drawn to your ENERGY because you don’t need external validation to prove your worth.
Chapter 10: Balancing Humility with Boldness
Pain Point: Many people struggle with finding the balance between being humble and being bold. They feel confused about how to assert themselves without coming across as arrogant.
Solution: Pastor K-ICE teaches that “Humility and boldness are two sides of the same coin.” You can be bold in your mission while still being humble in your approach. Boldness doesn’t mean arrogance; it means standing firm in who you are and what you believe.
Key Takeaway: You can be humble and bold at the same time. Be bold in pursuing your purpose, but humble enough to know you don’t have all the answers.
- Scripture: Proverbs 28:1 — "The wicked flee though no one pursues, but the righteous are as bold as a lion."
- Explanation: Humility doesn’t mean weakness. You can be humble and still be bold, knowing that your righteousness and strength come from God.
Learning from the Greats:
Balancing Humility and Swagger
Hip-hop culture often portrays a blend of humility and confidence. Icons like 2PAC and DMX knew when to express POWER and when to show VULNERABILITY.
Similarly, you can be BOLD and HUMBLE at the same time by staying true to yourself without letting ego lead your actions.
Quotes by 2Pac about Being Bold and Humble
- "I know it seems hard sometimes, but remember one thing: through every dark night, there's a bright day after that."
- This quote shows Tupac’s belief in resilience, pushing through struggles while maintaining humility in the face of adversity.
- "I'm not saying I'm gonna change the world, but I guarantee that I will spark the brain that will change the world."
- Tupac acknowledges his boldness and influence, yet humbly leaves room for others to continue the work.
- "It takes skill to be real, time to heal each other."
- A humble recognition that true strength comes from vulnerability and a bold approach to healing and helping others.
- "I’d rather die like a man than live like a coward."
- This speaks to Tupac’s boldness and courage in standing up for what he believes, even as he remains grounded in his truth.
Quotes by DMX about Being Bold and Humble
- "I'm a King, regardless of what I've been through and what I've done. I've found my way back to the Lord."
- DMX recognizes his past mistakes but humbly attributes his strength and boldness to his faith.
- "The toughest thing about success is that you've got to keep being a success."
- This highlights DMX’s boldness in achieving success but humbly acknowledges the ongoing challenge of maintaining it.
- "If you pray for rain, you gotta deal with the mud too."
- DMX boldly embraces the trials that come with success but humbly accepts the difficulties as part of the journey.
- "I just find myself happy with the simple things. Appreciating the blessings God gave me."
- DMX demonstrates a bold approach to life’s challenges while humbly appreciating the small, meaningful aspects of life.
These quotes reflect both Tupac's and DMX's complex personas—bold, yet deeply humble and reflective. They offer powerful insights into balancing confidence with humility, making them fitting inspirations for the Humble Is Sexy Movement.
The Journey of Humble Confidence
Balancing HUMILITY and CONFIDENCE is an ongoing process, but with daily practice, you’ll find yourself radiating SEXINESS from the inside out.
Remember, your true power lies in your ability to stay GROUNDED while exuding SELF-ASSURANCE.
Bonus Content:
Affirmations for CONFIDENCE and HUMILITY
Affirmation Scripture:
- Philippians 4:13 — "I can do all this through Him who gives me strength."
- Explanation: This scripture is a reminder that true strength, confidence, and sexiness come from God’s power within you. You can face anything with boldness and humility.
HUMBLE and SEXY Affirmations
Here are powerful affirmations to help you start each day with CONFIDENCE and HUMILITY:
- “I am grounded in HUMILITY and radiate CONFIDENCE.”
- “I am deserving of all my successes, and I remain HUMBLE in my growth.”
- “I attract POSITIVITY and surround myself with uplifting ENERGY.”
- “I love and accept MYSELF fully, just as I am.”
- “My CONFIDENCE shines naturally, and I don’t need to prove my worth to anyone.”
- “I am calm, composed, and radiate GOOD VIBES in every situation.”
- “I am a magnet for POSITIVE relationships and connections.”
- “I grow through LOVE, HUMILITY and build strength through CONFIDENCE.”
- “I walk with SWAGGER, but stay grounded in my purpose.”
This journey through humility and confidence is one of balance. As you integrate these principles into your life, you’ll find that anger, jealousy, and negative thinking start to fade away. Humility will ground you, and true confidence will make you shine.
Remember the teachings of Prophet 2Pac, Deacon DMX, and Pastor K-ICE: Humility is strength, and true confidence is quiet.
This BLOG BOOK is designed to provide a balanced, practical approach to mastering humility and sexiness, helping you to build confidence while staying grounded.
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How to Be HUMBLE
How to Be SEXY
BLOG-BOOK!
SECTION 2
"Sexy was in the 80's
Gangsta was in the 90's
Now we're living in the Sexy Gangsta Era"!- Pastor K-ICE
This was me back in the 90’s…
I was living that “THUG-LIFE”,
but thank God the “THUGGED-OUT” life is played out! #90’s
So “DON’T BE A THUG”!
Proverbs 4:14-17
(14) Don’t take the path of the wicked; don’t follow those who do evil. (15) Stay away from that path; don’t even go near it. Turn around and go another way. (16) The wicked cannot sleep until they have done something evil. They will not rest until they bring someone down. (17) Evil and violence are their food and drink.
The SEXY GANGSTA Poem
I am the Sexy Gangsta, hear me roar,
Balancing softness with strength, and so much more.
With boldness and positivity as my guide,
My loving heart and swagg cannot be denied.
My outer beauty is a sight to behold,
With style and grace, my confidence never gets old.
My inner beauty shines bright like a star,
With kindness and compassion that reach afar.
I walk with swagg, my head held high,
My presence commands attention, don't deny.
I take care of myself, inside and out,
My mind, body, and soul, I cannot go without.
So don't be fooled by my gangsta facade,
I am a force to be reckoned with, not just a facade.
A Sexy Gangsta, fierce and strong,
Balancing softness with strength all day long
Hi, my name is “Pastor K-ICE” #3rdLightWarrior
I’m a Rapper, Author, Actor, Sickle Cell Advocate & Certified Life Coach (character development).
I started the
“SEXY GANGSTA MOVEMENT/HUMBLE IS SEXY PROJECT” to help influence more people in society to be “HUMBLE”, “BOLD”, “POSITIVE” & “LOVING”!
Section 2 of How to be HUMBLE How to be SEXY! (The Sexy Gangsta Movement)
Who is the “How to be HUMBLE… How to be SEXY” book for?
- It’s for those who can admit they have a "TEMPER/ATTITUDE" problem. (Too Tough)
- It’s for those who recognize they have a "PEOPLE WALK ALL OVER ME" problem. (Too Gentle)
- It’s for those who struggle with a "COOLNESS" issue. (No Drip/Swag)
LESSON 1: What is a SEXY GANGSTA
• The Sexy Gangsta breakdown
• Humble is Sexy
• Balancing Your Energy
LESSON 2: Be BOLD
• Have Confidence!
• Stand-up for YOURSELF! (especially against bullies)
• Speak Your Mind (with tough love)
LESSON 3: Be POSITIVE
• Think Positive
• Speak Positive
• Look Positive
LESSON 4: Be LOVE
• Love God
• Love yourself
• Love people
LESSON 5: Personal Hygiene/ Physical Appearance/Drip/Swagg
• BE cool
• LOOK cool
• FEEL cool
LESSON 1: What is a SEXY GANGSTA?
"Sexy was in the 80's
Gangsta was in the 90's
Now we're living in the Sexy Gangsta Era"!- Pastor K-ICE
Now is the time to…
✓ Be BOLD!
✓ Be POSITIVE!
✓ Be LOVE!
Before I breakdown what’s a Sexy Gangsta… I want to pray the “SEXY GANGSTA PRAYER” with you guys…
The "SEXY GANGSTA" Prayer
...Lord Yeshua, we honor you as the "LION" of the tribe of Judah who has triumphed, and the "LAMB" that was slain!
...Most-High God, I want to become more like "JESUS" and know when to be "BOLD" and "COURAGEOUS" like a lion, and when to be "MEEK" and "GENTLE" as a lamb.
So what is a Sexy Gangsta?
A “SEXY GANGSTA” is…a person who has swag… A Sexy Gangsta is a person who believes in taking care of their hygiene and physical appearance.
A Sexy Gangsta is a person who believes in positive energy and love… a person who has boldness from God. A Sexy Gangsta is a person who believes in being humble and standing up for what’s right. A Sexy Gangsta is a person who doesn’t allow people to take advantage of them.
ATTENTION to all the people that are not being themselves… the people that pretend to be “HARD/ FROM THE STREETS”… especially to the rappers that are pretending to live a certain lifestyle just to sell records. If you continue to do this… that means “MONEY” is your god and it controls you. And the worst ones that are doing this; are the “LATE STARTER THUGS”… the ones that start “THUGGING” in their late 20’s and 30’s
We are now living in the era where the culture is even more obsessed with “ROUGH” upbringings and rough “HOODTALES”. And now it seems like most people in today’s society want to embrace the “HOOD LIFE”… and I think that comes from us humans being addicted to “NEGATIVITY”.
We love “RATCHETNESS” before we love “RIGHTEOUSNESS” and that’s because we are all born sinners. But even though we are “BORN SINNERS”… we can learn how to balance that energy between the “SPIRIT & FLESH” through the power of LOVE.
In this world it’s sort of expected to be attracted to our “FLESHLY” desires more than our “SPIRITUAL” desires… and this is why humans are so attracted to drama reality shows, gossip, street life, etc.
This is why Denzel Washington won an Academy Award for best actor in the movie “Training Day”. He has tons of good character roles he played in other movies, but for some strange reason many people like him more in the movie “Training Day”… hummmm I wonder why?
There are many men that pretend to be “HARDER” than what they really are just to empress “NEGATIVE” minded women that likes that type of negative energy coming from a guy.
There are many women that love men with the bad boy attitudes, but don’t you notice what type of women that likes these types of dudes?
These types of women are usually “GROWN GIRLS” aka “IMMATURE WOMEN” and they usually can easily encourage a “GROWN BOY” aka “IMMATURE MAN” to behave in a negative way.
Most men will do anything for attractive women… especially for women with lots of sex appeal. I understand that majority of women doesn’t want be with a sucker, because a man is supposed to be the protector in the relationship.
But there is a difference in a “DEFENDER MENTALITY” vs “THUG MENTALITY”. It’s okay to be a guy that will protect his woman and family through his God given “LION ENERGY” within, but it’s not okay to walk this earth with a “NEGATIVE”, “TROUBLE MAKING”, “NASTY”, “SELFISH”, “DEVILISH ATTITUDE”.
A “FAMILY MAN” can protect a woman the same way a “THUG” can protect their women with a gun or fist fight, but the difference between the two is the family man uses “RIGHTEOUS ANGER” and the thug uses “NEGATIVE ANGER” when dealing with certain situations…
For example: A thug is quick to fight someone if that person gets on their bad side, but a family man will try to iron out the situation in a positive manner and if physical force is needed… it will be the “RIGHTEOUS ANGER” coming out to help the family man win that battle.
Most women want a Sexy Gangsta… a man that knows how to balance his “LAMB” and “LION” energy within. We are now living in a time where people are learning more how to balance their lamb and lion energy within. Many people are thinking more positive these days… Many people are more humble these days… and many people are standing-up for themselves more these days!
🦁The LION and the LAMB🐑
The balance of being humble and being bold is what makes a “SEXY GANGSTA”. This mindset can help build-up confidence to stand-up against bullies; and it can also build-up confidence to be a kind, positive, loving, humble person… because it takes courage to express positive energy.
Humans are naturally more attracted to negativity… so it’s easier for humans to gravitate towards evil, hate and negative energy vs righteousness, love and positive energy. So if you are expressing more positive energy in your life; that means you’re tapping more into God’s energy vs the devil’s energy.
Some people want to be like Dr.Martin Luther King and some people want to be like Malcom X… and I think people should be like both of them, because Dr.Martin Luther King is known to be more like a lamb and Malcom X is known to be more like a lion. So if you mix both energies together … you get the “SEXY GANGSTA” energy.
My favorite rapper…the late Tupac Shakur said a quote on an interview. The quote said “I think being humble is sexy”.
I agree with Pac… Humble is the new sexy… The real women/ spiritual freaks are looking for humble dudes… because a positive mindset is the new turn-on. Negativity… Hate… is from the devil and Positivity and Love is from God. I don’t know about you, but I choose to be a Sexy Gangsta… not a "KILLER/THUG" gangster.
The “THUG/STREET LIFE” is actually the “DEVIL LIFE” in God’s eyes…
Proverbs 6:12-15
(12) Some people are just troublemakers. They are always thinking up some crooked plan and telling lies. (13) They use secret signals to cheat people; they wink their eyes, shuffle their feet, and point a finger. (14) They are always planning to do something bad. (15) But they will be punished. Disaster will strike, and they will be destroyed. There will be no one to help them.
What's the difference between "STREET LIFE" & "HUSTLE LIFE"?
➢ The street life is more of a violent gang lifestyle that involves more "KILLING" than getting "MONEY".
"STREET LIFE" is the "DEVIL's LIFE"… because it's a life mostly about… "BLACK ON BLACK CRIME"... Targeting anyone that "LOOKS" like you, "DRESS" likeyou, "TALK" like you, "SMOKE" like you, or "DRINK" like you!
➢ The hustle life is more of a street entrepreneur lifestyle. This lifestyle is really more about getting "MONEY" not "VIOLENCE/KILLINGS".
"HUSTLE LIFE" is "SURVIVAL LIFE"... It's a life mostly about… finding new ways to make money on the streets. These ways can sometimes be "ILLEGAL" or "LEGAL".
LEGAL examples: a person with a small mobile carwash, or a person that hustles legal business transactions on the streets; like selling purses, kid toys, etc. (Street vendors)
ILLEGAL examples: selling drugs, scams, etc
Both sides of the coins of the "HUSTLE LIFE" is just trying to survive out here in this "WILDERNESS" we call "LIFE"!
I can't judge the "ILLEGAL/IMMORAL SIDE" of anybody getting money… because you never know what position people are in to make them do; the things they do; for "MONEY". The only thing I gotta say is… use that money to become "LEGIT"!
The “STREET-LIFE” will keep you “BROKE”… this is why majority of street dudes are “HOMELESS” or “STRUGGLING” especially if they still live like that as a grown person.
What does it mean to be a "REAL STREET NIGGA"???
It means that the "DEVIL" has a stronger grip on your "MINDSET"… because it takes "SUPER NEGATIVE ENERGY" to live the "STREET LIFE"!
It takes a certain amount of "EVIL/HATRED" in your "HEART" in order to run the streets as a "REAL STREET NIGGA"!
So to be a real street nigga is nothing to brag about… it's actually embarrassing to consider yourself a real street nigga… especially after the age of 30!
Thank God the “THUGGED-OUT” life is played out! #90’s
Take a look around the world today. Do you notice that people are more… “SOFTER” and more “SENSTIVE” today?
Even the hoods aren’t even as bad as they use to be… now you got white people living all up in the hoods, because of gentrification. Even today’s youth aren’t as bad as the kids were in the gangsta 90’s era… so do you see how much things have changed?
Don’t’ get me wrong there are still a few knuckle heads out there, but for the most part people have changed. Most of the tough guys in the 90’s are all grown up now living the family life!
So “DON’T BE A THUG”!
Proverbs 4:14-17
(14) Don’t take the path of the wicked; don’t follow those who do evil. (15) Stay away from that path; don’t even go near it. Turn around and go another way. (16) The wicked cannot sleep until they have done something evil. They will not rest until they bring someone down. (17) Evil and violence are their food and drink.
Hey young world stay away from the “STREET LIFE” it’s only a “TRAP”!
Proverbs 1:10-16
(10) My son, those who love to do wrong will try to trick you. Don’t listen to them. (11) They will say, “Come with us. Let’s hide and beat to death anyone who happens to walk by. (12) We will swallow them whole, as the grave swallows the dying. (13) We will take everything they have and fill our houses with stolen goods. (14) So join us, and you can share everything we get.”(15) My son, don’t follow them. Don’t even take the first step along that path. (16) They run to do something evil, and they cannot wait to kill someone.
We gotta be careful what we do in our “YOUNGER DAYS”, because it will come to haunt us after we hit 35 years old.
The more ratchet/wild we live in our “YOUTH”… the harder it will be to “CHANGE” in the future.
A bad past can make it harder to become a good spouse, and parent. It will also make it harder to become a real soldier for the Most-High God… but it’s not impossible to change, because all things are possible through Christ… but it will just be a stronger struggle to change after we’ve opened our spirit to certain bad things in this world.
But nevertheless; we are able to change for the better… but we have to REALLY REALLY REALLY want to change!
Stay away from “KNUCKLE HEAD” friends
Proverbs 22:24-25
(24) Don’t be friends with people who become angry easily. Don’t stay around quick-tempered people. (25) If you do, you may learn to be like them. Then you will have the same problems they do.
If you’re over “30 YEARS OLD” and still acting like a “THUG”… you need to grow up!
1 Corinthians 13:11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, and I made plans like a child. When I became a man, I stopped those childish ways.
The “THUG/STREET MINDSET” will hinder a person from achieving a “CHRIST MINDSET”
Phillipians 2:5 In your life together, think the way Christ Jesus thought.
While in New York’s Clinton Correctional Facility… Tupac wrote a letter…
And some of it read… “THUG LIFE TO ME IS DEAD”, IF IT’S REAL, THEN LET SOMEBODY ELSE REPRESENT IT, BECAUSE I’M TIRED OF IT”.
Back in the days most street dudes were very afraid to express their “SENSITIVE SIDE”; especially in front of their homies… but things changed after “2PAC” helped split the “MINDSET” of “THUGS” … he helped street dudes get in touch with their sensitive side.
(I think being humble is sexy-2Pac)
In this new era it’s all about living the “HUMBLE/ LUV- LIFE” not the “THUG LIFE”!
2Pac said he was done representing “THUG-LIFE”!
2Pac said he now represents the “HUMBLE-LIFE” (I think being humble is sexy-2Pac)…
We desperately need more “HUMBLENESS” in today’s society … because in these “END-TIMES” the “JEALOUSY”… “ANGER”.. “BITTERNESS” and “HATRED” is heavily destroying families, friendships, etc.
Ephesians 4:31-32 (31) Never be bitter, angry, or mad. Never shout angrily or say things to hurt others. Never do anything evil. (32) Be kind and loving to each other. Forgive each other the same as God forgave you through Christ.
Unfortunately we are living in the "END" of the "LAST DAYZ"! #EndTimes
...In this new generation we must learn how to "BALANCE" our "LAMB & LION" energy!
...This is the generation of "SELF DEFENSE" ... because there's a "WAR" going on and it's only gonna get worse!
...We have to learn to use our "LION ENERGY" aka "GANGSTA ENERGY" for only righteousness sake tho
... we cant use it, because someone accidentally steps on our shoes
...We are "NOT KILLERS"... but we might have to kill for "SELF DEFENSE"!
There are times when we have to “DEFEND” ourselves from “INTRUDERS/TROUBLE MAKERS” and this is called “SELF DEFENSE”!
But also there are times when we will have to “TURN THE OTHER CHEEK” and be the “PEACE MAKERS” in bad situations.
Ecclesiastes 3:8 There is a time to love and a time to hate. There is a time for war and a time for peace.
And sometimes we might have to use our "GANGSTA" aka "LION ENERGY" to help others in dangerous situations… but shoot only for self-defense … don’t shoot because someone looked at you funny!
This “DECADE”… is the decade to buy a “SWORD” aka “GUN” to help “PROTECT” you and your family… The “WAR” is coming!
Luke 22:36 Jesus said to them, “But now if you have money or a bag, carry that with you. If you don’t have a sword, sell your coat and buy one.
"JESUS" is the best example of a "SEXY GANGSTA"
...JESUS has "TWO DIFFERENT NATURES"
...He is the "HUMBLE LAMB" and He is also the "CONQUERING LION"
...He came the first time as the Lamb of God; but now this time He will come back again as the "CONQUERING LION" of the Tribe of Judah! #JesusTheLamb #JesusTheLion
The “LION” and the “LAMB” ...Some people are lion-like. They are bold/courageous and stern …and some people are like a lamb; they are gentle, humble and passive. But all humans are supposed to be a “GODLY MIXTURE” of both, and know when to be like a “LAMB” and when to be like a “LION”.
...But how can one person be both the Lamb and the Lion?
SEXY ( lamb energy)... Matthew 10:16 “Listen! I am sending you, and you will be like sheep among wolves. So be smart like snakes. But also be like doves and don’t hurt anyone.
GANGSTA ( lion energy)... Joshua 1:9 Remember, I commanded you to be strong and brave. Don’t be afraid, because the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”
The "Humble is Sexy Project" was inspired by Tupac Shakur aka Prophet 2PAC
...The Humble is Sexy Project was created by Kenley La France aka Pastor K-ICE to help inspire people to become more humble.
Ephesians 4:2 Always be humble and gentle. Be patient and accept each other with love.
✔We have to be “HUMBLE”… if we want to be a real soldier for God.
✔We have to be “HUMBLE”… if we want real healthy and strong marriages.
✔We have to be “HUMBLE”… if we want to be better parents to our kids/grandkids.
✔We have to be “HUMBLE”… if we want true friendships with our brothers and sisters.
✔We have to be “HUMBLE”… to be a sexy gangsta. .
Most women don’t like bad guys… what they really want is a “SEXY GANGSTA” not necessarily a “THUG”… they want a man that knows how to “BALANCE” the “LAMB” and “LION” energy within.
In today’s society; most women are looking for a “HUMBLE MAN” that will treat them with respect. And most men are looking for a “HUMBLE WOMAN” without the bad attitude.
So be humble... because to not be “HUMBLE” is a real “TURN-OFF”. (read my relationship book “Sex, Money and Attitudes” to learn more)
The good book warns husbands about the danger of getting involved with a woman with a “BAD ATTITUDE”.
Proverbs 21:19 It is better to live alone in the desert than with a quick-tempered wife who loves to argue.
The good book tells us how a wife “ATTITUDE” should be during a “MARRIAGE”.
Proverbs 31:12 She does good for her husband all her life. She never causes him trouble.
The good book tells us how a husband “ATTITUDE” should be during a “MARRIAGE”.
Colossians 3:19 Husbands, love your wives, and be gentle to them.
Men need to learn how to be humble so that they can become better leaders, better gentlemens, better husbands, better fathers and better friends.
Women need to learn how to be humble so that they can become better leaders, better ladies, better wives, better mothers and better friends.
Kids need to learn how to be humble so that they can become better children and better friends.
Men with ATTITUDES! (MWA)
Let’s talk about MEN with BAD ATTITUDES.
Why are so many men, especially those over 40, so bitter these days?
Many men, particularly those who’ve lived a tough, street-centered life, are carrying EMOTIONAL WOUNDS from years of accumulated pain. The more stress we put ourselves through in our younger years, the more we feel its effects as we age. Even if you turn your life over to God, the heartache from your past might linger, but with the Most-High by your side, that pain will be easier to bear.
Most men—especially BLACK MEN—need healing for their minds. Yet, many are afraid to admit it. #HealingTheBlackMindProject
We’ve endured much in America, and still face challenges that are unique to BLACK MEN, leaving many of us deeply wounded inside.
This inner frustration makes it harder to be good husbands, fathers, and positive contributors to society. The poverty, lack of opportunities, and systemic struggles create a deep hunger. And as the old saying goes, “A hungry man is an angry man”
Many men struggle to change their ATTITUDES because of their circumstances. While we shouldn’t judge them for their pain, we also can’t excuse harmful behaviors. Some carry chips on their shoulders from childhood trauma, tough upbringings, or broken relationships.
So, how can men begin to heal their BITTER ATTITUDES?
The first step is to truly submit to the Most-High and ask Him for the ability to love as He does. Love is the most powerful medicine for healing our minds.
Men need LOVE to overcome the jealousy and envy they often have toward each other, especially Black men. Until we seek a deeper understanding of love, we’ll remain spiritually stagnant.
Women with ATTITUDES! (WWA)
Now, let’s talk about WOMEN with BAD ATTITUDES.
Why do women seem FEISTIER than men? Why do they often clash with each other? Why is there this tendency to size one another up when they meet?
In my opinion, this goes back to the story of Eve eating the forbidden fruit first. I believe the serpent's influence remains stronger on the one who took the first bite, which may explain why the scriptures describe women as the "weaker vessel"
As it says in 1 Peter 3:7, "Husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered"
And Proverbs 21:19 tells us, "It is better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife"
However, Proverbs 31:12 highlights the ideal, "She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life"
Many older women, especially BLACK WOMEN, carry bitterness, often due to painful relationships, childhood trauma, and tough life circumstances.
It’s undeniable that Black women face some of the hardest struggles in America, often raising children alone in poverty while enduring incredible stress.
But despite these challenges, the power of LOVE can transform those negative emotions.
The Most-High God is the only source of true confidence for a woman. No amount of makeup, weaves, wigs, clothes, or jewelry can fill that void. We all need the Creator to instill a spiritual type of confidence—what I call "God-fidence"
When a woman doesn’t know her true identity, vanity often takes over, convincing her she needs material things and external beauty to feel complete. But this lie only leads to more BITTERNESS over time.
So, ladies, turn to God. He is the only One who can make you feel whole and free you from a BAD ATTITUDE.
Kids with ATTITUDES! (KWA)
Let’s talk about the ATTITUDES of the YOUNGER GENERATION.
Today’s youth seem more cold-hearted than ever. Young rappers mock the deaths of their peers, and much of their music glorifies BLACK-ON-BLACK violence.
As Matthew 24:12 says, “Because lawlessness will abound, the love of many will grow cold”
The level of disrespect toward parents is at an all-time high. Many young people feel entitled, acting as if they know more than their parents. And money has become a major blinder for this generation.
A few years ago, there was a tragic story of a young aspiring rapper who murdered his own mother for life insurance money, just so he could flaunt wealth in front of his peers and in his music videos. This kind of behavior highlights a deep lack of respect and honor for parents.
Many ADULT CHILDREN still harbor grudges over things that happened in their childhood, refusing to forgive their mom or dad for the pain they carry inside.
As 2 Timothy 3:2 warns, “People will love only themselves and money. They will be proud, boastful, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, and unholy”
This generation's attitude is a reflection of the times, where LOVE and RESPECT have grown COLD, replaced by pride and materialism.
Parents with ATTITUDES! (PWA)
Let’s take a moment to discuss PARENTS and their ATTITUDES.
Children should respect their parents, but as they grow older, parents should also show respect to their adult children. Too often, parents believe they can treat their ADULT CHILDREN however they want simply, because they brought them into this world. Respect must go both ways, especially when children become adults.
Now, let's dive into the baby mama/baby daddy drama. #FamilyManMovement
There’s far too much conflict between BABY MAMAS and BABY DADDIES, and it needs to stop. This animosity negatively impacts the children involved. That’s why it’s crucial to learn how to love before starting a family. Understanding how to love—especially learning how to love like Jesus—can drastically reduce much of the tension between parents.
It’s time to end the PARENTING DRAMA. In many cases, it's the mothers withholding children from their fathers, and the devil delights in this kind of division. Both parents need to put forth effort to remain positive when communicating. Less hostility between parents means less stress on the kids.
And to all the moms: If your baby daddy is causing problems, respond with love rather than anger.
The Bible teaches us that hating another person is a sign that we don’t truly love God.
Let’s read:
So, how can we claim to love God if we harbor hate toward our baby mama or baby daddy? We should be expressing unconditional, Christ-like love to everyone, including those we’ve had children with.
But where do we find the power and courage to love like Jesus? It only comes from Him. To love like Christ, we need to take our spiritual walk seriously, striving to become disciples of Jesus, not just believers. He said that people would know we are His disciples by how we love each other.
Reducing parenting drama starts with learning to love one another because only through love can we push through the negative energy that so often fuels baby mama/baby daddy conflict.
Strategies to Help Baby Mamas and Baby Daddies Get Along:
- Build your character in Christ. Developing a Christ-like attitude will help you handle negative energy from the other parent.
- See each other as brothers and sisters in the Lord. Viewing your co-parent as a fellow believer instead of an adversary can change how you interact with them.
- Never speak negatively about the other parent in front of the kids. This will help your children avoid forming a negative view of their other parent.
- If arguments are frequent, arrange drop-offs/pickups at a neutral location. In-laws, trusted relatives, or friends can help facilitate these exchanges.
- Allow both parents to be involved in the children's lives. Even if you don’t like the other parent, visitation rights should be respected for the sake of the children.
- Set boundaries for communication. Focus conversations strictly on matters related to the kids to avoid unnecessary conflict.
- Don’t cut off contact just because of financial issues. Even if the other parent isn’t contributing much money, allow them to still be involved in their children’s lives.
By applying these strategies, parents can reduce conflict and create a healthier environment for their children. Remember, LOVE is the key to overcoming negativity.
SPIRITUAL with ATTITUDES! (SWA)
Let’s take a moment to address those who are SPIRITUAL, but struggle with their ATTITUDES. One of the main areas we need to work on is how we use our tongues. Controlling what we say—especially when we are angry—is essential for living a RIGHTEOUS LIFE.
James 1:26 says, "You might think you are a very religious person. But if your tongue is out of control, you are fooling yourself. Your careless talk makes your offerings to God worthless."
James 3:9-10 reminds us, (9) We use our tongues to praise our Lord and Father, but then we curse people who were created in God’s likeness. (10) These praises and curses come from the same mouth. My brothers and sisters, this should not happen."
There are many people who believe in God but carry a BAD, BITTER, and HATEFUL ATTITUDE. So, why does this happen so often?
It happens because, as humans, we need the power of Christ to elevate our ability to LOVE.
This kind of love is what helps diminish the hate, jealousy, envy, and bitterness that exist within all of us. These toxic emotions are a part of our human nature because we are all born into sin.
It is only through God that we can bury these negative traits deep within ourselves, and it takes His strength to keep them buried.
When we are born, we only know how to express love at a surface level. We are incapable of loving deeply like Christ until we surrender to
Yeshua (Jesus) and receive the Holy Spirit.
This ability to love unconditionally—Christ-like love—is a gift from God. It’s not something we naturally possess. We have to work for it, and that work is striving to become disciples of Christ.
Only disciples of Christ can express LOVE on such a profound level.
John 13:34-35
(34) “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. (35) By this, everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
This is why many Christians struggle with hatred. I’ve heard Christians say, "I hate that person," but Jesus teaches us to love everyone, just as He loves everyone. It doesn’t matter how much someone upsets us—we are called to love one another, even our enemies.
The challenge for most Christians is that they are living as believers in Christ, but they are meant to become disciples. Jesus didn’t tell us to go make more believers; He said to go and make disciples. Believing in Christ is just the first step.
Becoming a disciple is the next.
Matthew 28:19 says, “Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.”
True spiritual growth and the ability to LOVE like Christ come from this deeper commitment to discipleship.
BALANCING YOUR ENERGY:
SOFT: Being a soft person has nothing to do with how nerdy/green you look or how soft-spoken you are… being “SOFT” is more about being “HUMBLE” and “WISE” when dealing with other human-beings… and the best way to get this mindset is through the power of the Most High God!
Being “HUMBLE” and always trying to do things with “LOVE” will help keep a person in “SEXY” mode… because being in “GANGSTA” mode is only needed when it’s time to display “RIGHTEOUSS TOUGH LOVE”.
Soft Love
Mark 12:31 The second most important command is this: ‘Love your neighbor the same as you love yourself.’ These two commands are the most important.”
STRONG: Being a strong tough person has nothing to do with how scary you look or how big you are… It’s about having a “BOLD/COURAGEOUS” mindset… and the best way to get this mindset is through the power of the Most High God!
A spiritual tough person is more deadly than a regular tough person, because God and holy angels are on the spiritual tough person side.
Strong Love (righteous tough love)
Proverbs 13:24 If you don’t correct your children, you don’t love them. If you love them, you will be quick to discipline them.
Feminine Energy (sexy side/ lamb energy):
In this world “WOMEN” and “MEN” need to learn how to “BALANCE” their “FEMININE ENERGY”. I’m sure of course it’s easier for women to do this more than men, but some women do struggle with showing their feminine side.
When should a “WOMAN” use her “FEMININE” energy?
• When she’s parenting her kid(s)
• When she’s with her man (especially in bed)
• When she’s praying to God
When should a “MAN” use his “FEMININE” energy?
• When he’s parenting an infant/ changing diapers, etc.
• When he’s expressing compassion toward others (especially toward children)
• When he’s praying to God
Masculine Energy (gangsta side/ lion energy):
In this world “MEN” and “WOMEN” need to learn how to “BALANCE” their “MASCULINE ENERGY”. I’m sure of course it’s easier for men to do this more than women, but some men do struggle with showing their masculine side.
When should a “WOMAN” use her “MASCULINE” energy?
• When she’s parenting teenagers (especially single moms)
• When she’s having car problems (change a flat, add antifreeze, etc.)
• When she’s at work (female truck drivers, manager position, etc.)
• When she’s out in public in dangerous areas (watch out for danger, stand up for yourself, etc.)
side note: sometimes we complain about how our black women are too masculine, but when you look deeper into the situation; they sort of have to be MASCULINE, especially if they living in the hood.
When should a “MAN” use his “MASCULINE” energy?
• When he’s parenting toddlers and up
• When he’s with his woman (especially in bed)
• When he’s out in public (watch out for danger, stand up for yourself, etc.)
LESSON 2: Be BOLD
Be BOLD:
If we want to have “RIGHTEOUS BOLDNESS” … we gotta get that “BOLD POWER” from Christ… because it’s through the “POWER OF CHRIST” that a human is able to have access to righteous boldness and confidence.
Remember; we as humans… need God for every aspect of our lives; therefore we need Him to help us to become a “BOLD”person!
Psalm 138:3 When I called to you for help, you answered me and gave me strength.
Ephesians 3:12 In Christ we come before God with freedom and without fear. We can do this because of our faith in Christ.
STAND-UP FOR YOURSELF:
They will call you difficult for standing up for yourself, but you have the right to defend yourself in the name of righteousness. Don’t allow people to “BULLY” you “PHYSICALLY” or “MENTALLY”!
Deuteronomy 31:6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”
SPEAK YOUR MIND (with tough love):
Many people are afraid to say what’s really on their mind… but we shouldn’t be afraid to “SPEAK OUR MIND”. But when do we speak our mind… it’s better to do it with “LOVE/TOUGH LOVE”.
1 Corinthians 16:14 Let all that you do be done with love.
LESSON 3: Be POSITIVE
Think POSITIVE:
If we want our lives to run much smoother…we must think positive… because thinking positive helps us to reduce stress and headaches. Thinking positive; helps us to keep calm. Thinking positive allows LOVE to build-up in our hearts.
I know it’s easier said than done, because even I have my moments when I’m not thinking so “POSITIVE”… It’s not an easy thing to do. So whenever I fall into that situation… I pray to God this prayer… “PLEASE LORD FEEL ME WITH YOUR LOVE & YOUR PEACE”.
Proverbs 17:22 Happiness is good medicine, but sorrow is a disease.
Ephesians 4:31 Never be bitter, angry, or mad. Never shout angrily or say things to hurt others. Never do anything evil.
Living a “HUMBLE LIFE” will turn a person into a “LOVE WARRIOR”!
Psalm 51:17 The sacrifice that God wants is a humble spirit. God, you will not turn away someone who comes with a humbleheart and is willing to obey you.
Ephesians 4:2 Always be humble and gentle. Be patient and accept each other with love.
Philippians 2:3 In whatever you do, don’t let selfishness or pride be your guide. Be humble, and honor others more than yourselves.
Speak POSITIVE:
Who likes being around someone that’s always speaking “NEGATIVE”?
And who wants to hang with someone that’s always talking that “TOUGH TALK”… a person like this is always in “FIGHT MODE”… ready to start “TROUBLE” with people over the smallest things.
Avoid hanging with these types of people until they MATURE a lil bit more or they can cause you to get in trouble too.
Ephesians 4:29 When you talk, don’t say anything bad. But say the good things that people need—whatever will help them grow stronger. Then what you say will be a blessing to those who hear you.
Proverbs 21:23 People who are careful about what they say will save themselves from trouble.
Mathew 12:34-37
(34) You snakes! You are so evil. How can you say anything good? What people say with their mouths comes from what fills their hearts.
(35) Those who are good have good things saved in their hearts. That’s why they say good things. But those who are evil have hearts full of evil, and that’s why they say things that are evil.
(36) I tell you that everyone will have to answer for all the careless things they have said. This will happen on the day of judgment.
(37) Your words will be used to judge you. What you have said will show whether you are right or whether you are guilty.”
Look POSITIVE:
Looking ‘POSITIVE doesn’t mean we have to walk around all day with a “BIG KOOL-AID SMILE” on our face… it just means we should look approachable.
Hey fellas… have you ever seen a fine girl and wanted her number, but her face looked mean, so you changed your mind about approaching her to try to get that number?
I know I’ve been there… so do you see how “MEAN MUGGING” can scare off opportunities. And if mean mugging has the power to turn away a potential husband… it also has the power to turn away “FINANCIAL OPPORTUNTIES” too!
Because someone might want to offer us a good position that can change our lives forever, but because of a “NEGATIVE LOOKING FACE”… that can most likely make a man or woman miss out on that great opportunity.
LESSON 4: Be LOVE
Be LOVE: Love like Jesus #LuvLife
COMMANDMENT #1
• God’s LOVE: Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. Deuteronomy 6:5
We must LOVE the One who created all things in the heavens and on the earth. We must LOVE the One who wakes us up every day. We must LOVE the One who takes care of the earth every day. We must LOVE our Creator with all of our hearts, mind and strength.
Example: When we follow His commandments… it shows our deep LOVE for God. When we express love to all of God’s creations; it shows our deep LOVE for God.
COMMANDMENT #2
• Self LOVE: “And the second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Matthew 22:39
How can we express LOVE towards people if we don’t LOVE our own selves? LOVE yourself to the upmost! When we respect ourselves… we LOVE ourselves.
Example: Caring about our soul shows we LOVE ourselves, Taking care of our health & body shows that we LOVE ourselves. Having integrity shows that we LOVE ourselves.
COMMANDMENT #3
• Neighborly LOVE: The second is this: Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these.” Mark 12:31
We must show compassion for people that “WE KNOW” and for people that we “DON’T KNOW”. Showing LOVE to people signifies our Godly heart.
Example: say hi to your next door neighbor sometimes, do some humanitarian work, smile at people, open the door for someone, speak the truth to people, etc.
COMMANDMENT #4
• Unconditional LOVE: The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” Deuteronomy 31:8
We must express LOVE without conditions attached. Our LOVE for people should be a LOVE of opened arms.
Example #1 (Loving WITH a condition): I can’t forgive you, I will only show love to you “IF”… you tell me that you’re sorry for what you did! I ONLY show love to people who shows me love.
Example #2 (Loving WITHOUT a condition): I will always love you no matter what happens between us. I will never turn my back on you, because I have unconditional love for you. I will always FORGIVE you for any wrong doings.
COMMANDMENT #5
• FRIENDSHIP LOVE: Jonathan, my brother, I miss you! I enjoyed your friendship so much. Your love for me was wonderful, stronger than the love of women. 2 Samuel 1:26
When we call someone a friend; we should mean it from the bottom of our heart. A friend is a person who will never turn their back on you. A friend is not an associate. A friend should be considered family.
Example: Respect your friends. Value your friends. Don’t take your friends for granted. Don’t take advantage of your friends. Don’t hurt your friends.
COMMANDMENT #6
• Family LOVE: If we say we love God but hate any of our brothers or sisters in his family, we are liars. If we don’t love someone we have seen, how can we love God? We have never even seen him. 1 John 4:20
Our LOVE for family is strong because we’ve built relationships with our family. We’ve created a special bond with our family. And we should cherish that family bond.
Example: respect your family, value your family, don’t take your family for granted, don’t take advantage of your family, don’t hurt your family.
COMMANDMENT #7
• Romantic LOVE: But each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself. And a wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:33
Be romantically-in-love with your boo. Don’t betray your boo. Respect your boo.
Example #1: Be compassionate toward each other. Be passionate toward each other. Be respectful toward each other.
Example #2: When you’re in a romantic relationship; you should not cheat because you wouldn’t want your lover cheating on you. Therefore we should treat our lover the same way that we want to be treated.
COMMANDMENT #8
• Enemy LOVE: But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you. Matthew 5:44
LOVE your haters. They say when we have haters; that mean we’re doing something right. Only LOVE has the power to overcome that envious emotion. All bad emotions must be fought through LOVE.
Example: don’t seek revenge on haters, don’t feed into haters trash talk, pray for your haters, don’t hate the person… hate their bad deeds.
COMMANDMENT #9
• Tough LOVE: He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him promptly. Proverbs 13:24
Tough LOVE is to be stern about a situation. There are times when we need to use Tough LOVE, but Tough LOVE should always be dealt with in a respectable & compassionate manner.
Example #1: When your kids act up; you must discipline them with tough love. A spanking, timeout, or grounding your child is tough LOVE.
Example #2: Sometimes we need to show tough love to our friends and family only because we love them and want to see them on the right path.
COMMANDMENT #10
• Wise LOVE: “Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves. Therefore be wise as serpents and harmless as doves. Matthew 10:16
Sometimes people will try to walk all over you when they know that you are a person of LOVE and peace. Jesus said to be wise as a serpent, but harmless as a dove. We must protect ourselves from certain people and things. We must be on our P’s & Q’s on a daily basis from people who might be potentially harming to us. We don’t necessarily have to hangout with someone to LOVE them. Some relatives & friends are best to LOVE from a far off (Long-Distance-Love).
Example: If a relative or friend has sneaky ways or always doing you wrong… it will be best to keep minimum contact with that person… but continue to love them through the power of Christ.
Now let’s talk about the benefits of loving like Jesus… if we love like Jesus
• We will be able to love our family with unconditional love
• We will be able to love our friends with unconditional love
• We will be able to love our spouse with unconditional love
• We will be able to love strangers with unconditional love
It is impossible to express unconditional love without the power of Christ. God is love; therefore we need Him to give us the power and courage to love Him, ourselves and others. Expressing unconditional love like Jesus puts us in right standing with God.
One law rules over all other laws. This royal law is found in the Scriptures: “Love your neighbor the same as you love yourself.” If you obey this law, you are doing right. James 2:8
What is Love... (1 Corinthians 13: 4-7)
Love is patient (We must learn to have patients toward ourselves and to one another)
and kind. (We must learn to be kind to ourselves and to one another)
Love is not jealous, (Godly Love doesn’t get jealous in a negative way, God is a jealous God, but His jealousy has nothing to do with HATING on people)
it does not brag, (We should only boast in the Lord)
and it is not proud. (Pride is what got Lucifer kicked out of heaven. Pride is a heavy sin.)
Love is not rude (Sarcasm and rudeness comes from the devil), it is not selfish, (Sharing is caring)
and it cannot be made angry easily. (Hot tempers, Bad Attitudes comes from the devil, so we should do our best to remain calm and humble at all times)
Love does not remember wrongs done against it. (We shouldn’t hold on to grudges)
Love is never happy when others do wrong (We shouldn’t give props to bad behavior), but it is always happy with the truth (We should desire truth in our life not falsehood).
Love never gives up on people.(We should always pray for everyone to make it with God, even if it seems impossible)
It never stops trusting, (We should always keep our faith in the Father, Son and the Holy Spirit)
never loses hope, (We should always stand firm in the promises of God for eternal life)
and never quits. (We have to stay strong on this Christian journey)
LESSON 5: Be COOL
God changed my “HEART” not my “SWAGG”!
Be “YOURSELF”… Be “YOU”!
1 Corinthians 7:24 Brothers and sisters, in your new life with God, each one of you should continue the way you were when God chose you.
Lots of times when we “CHANGE” for the better… we usually feel “OBLIGATED” to “LOOK”… “TALK”… “DRESS” & “WALK” exactly the same as whatever “SPIRITUAL ORGANIZATION” we believe in… and sometimes we even start mimicking the “SPIRITUAL LEADER” we follow in our looks, speech, etc.
But God wants us to have our own “SWAGG”… hey let’s say you become a Jehovah Witness or Muslim and you want to look like yourself, but you feel guilty because the spiritual organization tells you it’s wrong to look the way you were; before finding God.
But I’m here to tell you that you can keep your “DREADS” if you want too… you can keep your “GOLD TEETH” if you want too… You can keep your “COLORFUL WEAVE” ladies if you want too, so don’t let anyone make you feel bad about the way you “TALK”, “WALK”, “DRESS”, etc.
Keeping yourself looking “RESPECTFUL & CLEAN” is what matters when it comes to our “OUTTER APPEARANCE”… remember “CLEANLINESS” is close to “GODLINESS” and people do judge you by your outer appearance… it shouldn’t be like that, but hey, that’s just human nature to do so.
Look Cool:
Personal hygiene and health is very important… so take care of your “TEMPLE.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (19) You should know that your body is a temple for the Holy Spirit that you received from God and that lives in you. You don’t own yourselves. (20) God paid a very high price to make you his. So honor God with your body.
Even Daniel in the bible knew that eating HEALTHIER will make you LOOK better.
Daniel 1:12-13 (12) He said, “Please give us this test for ten days: Don’t give us anything but vegetables to eat and water to drink. (13) Then after ten days, compare us with the other young men who eat the king’s food. See for yourself who looks healthier, and then decide how you want to treat us, your servants.”
… and do your best to look and smell nice.
Check out this story about Esther and the king… when the king saw Esther… his eyes was amazed staring at a sexy woman in a beautiful robe.
Esther 5:1-2 (1) On the third day, Esther put on her special robes. Then she stood in the inside area of the king’s palace, in front of the king’s hall. The king was sitting on his throne in the hall, facing the place where people enter the throne room. (2) When the king saw Queen Esther standing in the court, he was very pleased. He held out to her the gold scepter that was in his hand. So Esther went in to the room and went near the king. Then she touched the end of the king’s gold scepter.
But don’t try to take care of your “OUTTER APPEARANCE” for “VANITY”… do it because God said so; and because you “LOVE YOURSELF”… And make sure you “INNER BEAUTY” is even more “BEAUTIFUL”.
1 Peter 3:3-4 (3) It is not fancy hair, gold jewelry, or fine clothes that should make you beautiful. (4) No, your beauty should come from inside you—the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. That beauty will never disappear. It is worth very much to God.
Feel Cool:
Feeling cool doesn’t mean to be conceited… feeling cool is more of a peaceful feeling. Being at “PEACE” helps us to feel more “CALM” and “RELAXED”.
But we gotta PRAY for that COOL ENERGY to takeover our minds, because it’s impossible to remain cool without help from the Most High God.
Philippians 4:6-7 (6) Don’t worry about anything, but pray and ask God for everything you need, always giving thanks for what you have. (7) And because you belong to Christ Jesus, God’s peace will stand guard over all your thoughts and feelings. His peace can do this far better than our human minds.
Isaiah 26:3 God, you give true peace to people who depend on you, to those who trust in you.
1 Peter 5:7 Give all your worries to him, because he cares for you.
John 14:27 “I leave you peace. It is my own peace I give you. I give you peace in a different way than the world does. So don’t be troubled. Don’t be afraid.
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